On Wednesday I had the absolute pleasure of heading to the Palazzo Versace Hotel on the Gold Coast for a charity fundraiser high tea which was attended by a very special guest speaker, Paul Burrell, former butler to the late Princess Diana.
As a controversial figure within Royal watching circles, I understand he isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but he did show me how to pour the perfect cup in case I ever do meet Queen Elizabeth II.
The fundraiser was in support of Young care, an organisation which helps young people with high assisted living needs exit or avoid admissions to aged care facilities.
There were two events on the day. The Royal Afternoon Tea and Conversation with Paul Burrell was the main event.
Prior to that there was a VIP event for only 12 people which I attended.
Nervously ushered into an elevator we had no idea where we were going until we ended up in the hotels Imperial Suite, a luxurious three-room apartment which boosts possibly the best view on the Gold Coast.
With mellow music coming from a guitar player/singer in the corner and Versace staff circulating with trays of champagne and cucumber finger sandwiches, Paul Burrell emerged into the lounge.
Just as synonymous with Diana to me as her ‘boys’ Princes William and Harry, Kensington Palace or her pearl and sapphire choker, it was quite a thrill when he appeared, almost like catching up with an old friend as his image is so familiar.
The presence of Diana lingers around him, almost to the point you expect her to pop through the door at any second.
Much like a cocktail party on an episode of The Bachelor, everyone breaks off into small groups where we wait for our own private ten minutes with him where we can take a photo, have him sign a copy of his bestselling biography ‘A royal duty’ and ask a few questions each.
My first impressions of Paul Burrell were that he has a smile which is larger than life and he radiates warmth.
Though slightly embarrassed when you ask him for a hug, he is always obliging, skilled at putting people at ease and calming their nerves.
His sunny disposition and megawatt smile are what directly led to him getting the job as the Queens personal footman after only two years of service at Buckingham Palace. That and an uncanny knack at being effortlessly able to pinpoint someone’s needs and fulfil them before they ask.
Summoned to see the Queen from the breakfast table one morning as she was interested in the ‘footman who always smiles so much’ he thought the only thing someone in his role could be summoned for at this time of the day was to walk the Queens beloved corgis.
Slipping 2 sausages in his back pocket he went to see the Queen.
‘Would you like to walk my Corgis?’ she asked.
‘Of course,’ he replied.
Out in the gardens of Buckingham Palace the Queen peeked through the curtains as her eight corgis, normally terrors to control were enthralled and chasing down the footman, or his two sausages at least.
Upon his return, the Queen commented ‘They do seem to love you, I think I will keep you’ and he was instantly promoted to be one of two, of the Queens personal footman.
In a world where we are so used to seeing commentary from friends and family of Diana’s or the Royals being split firmly in two different camps and loathing the other side, it is surprising to see someone talk about both the Queen and Princess Diana with the same love and affection. But he does.
He was probably the only member of Diana’s camp who didn’t want to cheer during Charles Spencer’s eulogy inside Westminster Abbey, he wanted to tell people to stop clapping, to look at the Queen, that she was heartbroken.
Always respectful of the entire Royal family he cannot be baited to speak poorly of even Camilla, the Duchess of Cornwall.
When asked of his opinion of Camilla and Charles’s relationship he simply replies, ‘I can never speak warmly of Camilla, I am Diana’s man, she was not my mistress, she was somebody else’s mistress, Diana was my mistress and it is with her my love and loyalty will always lie’.
In fact, I kind of get the feeling that he wishes people would stop mentioning both Camilla and Diana in the sentence.
That he does not want Camilla to become as synonymous with Diana. He instead hopes when we recall her, we focus on her charity work, her sons and how she changed the monarchy and the world.
Not the parts of her life which bought pain and heartache.
It is surprising how little gossip and scandal he does discuss.
When he talks of Diana he discusses their friendship, her charity work, her love for her sons all peppered with personal memories of their day to day interactions with one another.
Topics such as previous lovers including Hasnat Khan and Dodi Al Fayed, preparing for her funeral, her divorce with Charles only come up when he is asked directly and we do ask him- constantly.
When asked if he wishes that Diana had never married Charles he replies, ‘It was Diana’s destiny to marry Charles, to have those two boys, to change the monarchy and the world today, to pave the way and go through the hardships she did to create a better life for her boys and grandchildren, it was her destiny’.
Ushered from the private event to the foyer outside the ballroom for the afternoon tea we are greeted by doorman dressed as Queen guards and trumpeters announce the event officially open.
Walking into the ballroom we are greeted with candle light and over 5000 flowers, mostly roses in tribute to England’s rose.
My own outfit, a dress from Australian brand Review, covered in a rose pattern blends in with the décor.
After some on stage introductions Paul joins our table for a traditional afternoon tea- the menu includes delights such as English cucumber finger sandwiches, candied lemon and sultana scones served with balsamic strawberry jam with cream, guava and passionfruit mousse and finishes with a chocolate dome etiquette smash, so called as it contains a small take home guide book on etiquette.
Halfway through the tea Paul takes to the stage for an hour presentation where he talks of his life before the Royals,
He was studying a hospitality and hotel management course and dreamed of working at sea with Cunard cruise line.
He applied to Cunard at the same time he applied at Buckingham Palace.
In a secret, he only found out from his younger brother on the day of his mother’s funeral, his mother had received two letters on the same day, one from Cunard and one from Buckingham palace, both offering him employment.
She took the letter from Cunard and tossed it on the fire telling his younger brother that if he went far away to sea they would never see him again.
Paul believes it was Diana’s destiny to marry into and change the Royal family and touch people the world over by becoming ‘the people’s princess’, just as much as it was his destiny to enter a life of service with the Royals and to be there for Diana, her rock.
Through William, he feels the Monarchy is in safe hands and will flourish in the future.
He advises he has no inside special knowledge but he sees Harry being happy in a way he hasn’t seen since before his mother’s death and he predicts another Royal wedding next year.
I’m sure we all have our fingers crossed for that one!
He says his favorite memory is of Diana, in her robe, her hair in a towel, playing her piano, finally having a moment to live her life like she doesn’t have cameras pointed on her at every second.
What did I learn most from my afternoon with Paul Burrell? A little kindness goes a long way, life is precious and can change at any second, a sunny disposition and a smile can get you far in life and the importance of a thank you note, in fact I am off to write one now.